Forget the Future: How to Live Your Dream Right Now
8 WAYS TO CHOOSE BOTH MEANING AND MONEY
THE ART OF RAPID PERSONAL GROWTH
My son died from Whooping Cough.
It was the low point in my life.
My personal life spun into deep grief.
My wife’s brother had just died a couple years earlier in his sleep.
My wife and I crawled in a hole away from the world.
We have 3 other kids and our family doubled to 6 when we brought in 3 more that needed a home (7 year old girl and 1 year old twins).
We were going to adopt them until the State gave them back to the bio Mom.
A blessing and nightmare simultaneously.
My wife and I decided to take our 3 kids on a road trip from NY.
On the way to the airport my wife lost her memory (stroke?).
Her memory came back. The doctors said there was no long-term damage. I was scared. She got on the plane anyways.
We became digital entrepreneurs roaming from New York City to San Diego to Mexico to Canada.
We never knew where we’d stay at night.
It was bliss. We did this for 6 months before moving to Hawai‘i for a promised opportunity.
The promise was a lie.
We are grateful for that lie.
We own our own lives and live regardless of frauds.
We now have books, videos and companies all about living an intentional life without regret.
We make both physical products and digital products with a decentralized, global footprint.
Real businesses with real revenue and real contribution.
Life is short.
Just because that phrase is cliche, doesn’t make it less true.
We have freedom of geography, income and time.
We don’t care about stuff. We own almost nothing. We are minimalists.
But, we do own our lives.
We own our time.
We own our contribution to humanity on a deep level.
If you’ve had a tragedy, ask yourself, “How can I assign meaning and turn this tragedy into a triumph?”
My son was hit my a car in Hawai‘i a couple months ago.
He should be dead.
He was in a surf contest recently.
We move forward and don’t blame God.
We blame nothing.
We praise God and own life.
As Sheryl Sandberg said,
We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.
Is your life hard? Good. You were built to do hard things.
8 WAYS TO START LIVING THE DREAM LIFE YOU PLANNED ON DOING LATER, RIGHT NOW
1. CHOOSE BOTH MEANING AND MONEY TO RAPIDLY DEVELOP AND GROW PERSONALLY
We’ve all been jolted before.
Let’s do something about it!
You NEED to start meaningful projects now — you never know how much time you have left.
GO start projects related to the field in which you want to be employed . . . before you actually need to.
If you’re too afraid to start doing the dream work you had planned for the future right now, do it now anyway.
Imagine you’re an employer looking to hire.
Would you be more likely to hire the person who says, “I’ve always wanted to do what you do. You’re living my dream!”
OR the person who says, “I couldn’t wait until you hired me, so I started this awesome project that you’re really going to love! It’s directly aligned with the mission of your organization. Check it out!”?
When you’ve got the wheels in motion, people will come out of the woodwork to help you make things happen.
These people will become your mentors and allies.
The people you meet as you’re engaged in your dream work will change the course of your life.
Engage in projects that both fire you up and help you meet the greats in your industry.
Not only will knowing them offer you credibility, they just may end up offering you the job of your dreams.
No matter how poor, young, or old you are, start immediately.
You can’t afford not to.
Your life depends on it.
2. MAKE CHOICES FROM WHO YOU WANT TO BE (POSITIVELY), NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE (NEGATIVELY) NOW
This is the Money VS Meaning Matrix I created to help myself make decisions regarding which projects that I take on.
I’ve found this matrix to be incredibly helpful when I’m working with consulting clients — particularly those who are working with me in my Platinum Mastermind Group.
3. USE THE MONEY VS MEANING MATRIX TO PLOT WHERE YOU ARE AND DESIGN HOW TO GET TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE
This is where you make a lot of money, but the work is not really meaningful to you. You’re happy you’re prospering, sure, but you find you burn out easily (and/or get bored), and you wish you were getting more deep satisfaction out of your work/life. From the outside looking in, it would appear that you’ve got it all, but on the inside, there is definitely something missing. You long to use your talents and passions to make a meaningful contribution in your industry (or another one all together), but unfortunately, you’re just too busy making money.
In quadrant 2, you’re making money while simultaneously experiencing real satisfaction from the meaningful work in which you’re engaged. You’re happy to be living a comfortable and sustainable lifestyle, you’re fulfilled by your work, AND you’re deeply satisfied by the contribution you’re making in your industry/the world. Quadrant 2, my friends, is the sweet spot.
This is where you seem to constantly be struggling to make ends meet. The income just doesn’t ever seem to be enough for you to experience real, sustainable financial security — let alone ever get ahead. Furthermore, the work you’re doing seems meaningless. You may feel trapped, and you definitely find yourself wishing that things were very different. At times, you may even feel hopeless. You find yourself desperately waiting for a) circumstances to magically change or b) for an opportunity to come along for you to do something different.
This is where the work you’re doing is fulfilling and making a meaningful difference. You love what you do. The work fuels and excites you. But as it stands, the work is simply not making enough money to be sustainable. You may find yourself resenting money, overwhelmed and/or discouraged by the need to bring in consistent cash flow, when all you really want to do is make a difference in the world. You would give anything to be able to stop worrying about when/where/or how the next paycheck will arrive and wether or not it will be enough to keep things afloat. Meaningful work is great, but if you’re in Quadrant 4 and it’s not profitable, you likely feel a considerable amount of inner conflict or “mission drift,” because no matter how meaningful the work you’re doing actually is, you still have to be able to pay the bills.
SO, WHERE DO YOU FIT IN?
Plot your current situation, then ask yourself these questions:
1. Why am I here?
2. How can I move from where I am to where I want to be?
3. Am I willing to make the sacrifice to get there (or stay there)?
4. What one thing can I do today to move myself closer to Quadrant 2?
4. CRUSH FEAR TO GET FROM HERE TO THERE
Three Essential Lessons Personal Developers, Leaders and Entrepreneurs Need to Learn About Fear
We’re all scared.
Yes, all of us. In fact, I’m afraid every day.
If I’m not afraid, I must not be doing something I need to be doing.
When you’re doing important work, you feel fear because you don’t want to fail.
The challenge is to not let the fear stop you from doing the work that will enable you to achieve your goals.
You need to recognize the fear for what it is and allow your “why” (your compelling vision) for what you’re doing be bigger than the fear itself.
Lesson: You’re not alone in your fear.
“We’re all scared most of the time. Life would be lifeless if we weren’t. Be scared, and then jump into that fear. Again and again. Just remember to hold on to yourself while you do it.” — Emma Hooper
People who succeed are more afraid of what will happen if they don’t follow through.
So what’s the difference between people who don’t succeed and people who do? People who don’t succeed let fear lull them into the belief that they should settle for the status quo.
People who do succeed transform fear into power and get to work.
Lesson: Be afraid of what will happen if you DON’T follow through.
“Feel the fear and do it anyways.” — Susan Jeffers
Achievers allow the fear of missing out (FOMO) to drive them to success.
Achievers are actually MORE afraid than non-achievers.
Achievers are afraid that if they give into their fears, their pain will actually be greater than if they face their fears.
Lesson: Lean into fear.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
5. DON’T CHOOSE THE FUTURE, CHOOSE NOW
YOU ARE NOT THE FUTURE, YOU ARE THE NOW
It’s commonly said, “You are the future.”
You’re not the future.
You’re the now.
You’re that little kid years ago the world was banking on to change the world today.
The future IS now.
There is nothing you can do in the future.
Don’t believe it?
I was at a conference with Hale Dwoskin, best-selling author of The Sedona Method when he said, “Try doing something in the future right now. You can’t.”
Unless you’re Marty McFly from Back to the Future, good luck!
You can only do in the now.
6. BUST THE “I HAVE NO TIME” MYTH
Destroy the idea in your mind that you can put off important things (like that project or time for yourself) for now because there is going to be so much time to do it later.
We never really know how much time we have.
All we can be sure of is that we have right now.
7. BUST THE PERSONAL “LIMITATIONS” MYTH
Destroy the idea that you’re too young, too old, too much or less of anything to do something you’re passionate about.
Napoleon Hill, best-selling personal development author said,
“Whatever the mind can conceive, and believe, the mind can achieve. Regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes may be.”
If what you have in mind to do is important enough to you, then you’ll figure out a way to do it.
You don’t need to be totally independent and have everything you need right now to get started.
One of the more famous lines of poetry reads,
“No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” — John Donne
In other words, no one does it alone and you are more important to the world than you think.
You are, you are, you are, you are…
You are no one else.
Do you tell yourself that you will do things differently and be somebody else in the future when your circumstances change?
You can’t change and be somebody else in the future unless you start becoming a little better at being that future person today.
The key to success in the future is to be that person you see in the future (the true you) now.
Be yourself — you’re true self — that great person deep inside your head that could do anything if circumstances were different.
But that’s the catch.
Circumstances aren’t different.
So what do you do?
8. APPLY THESE 7 STEPS I JUST TAUGHT YOU, IMMEDIATELY
Lack of time, education and money shouldn’t stop you from achieving dreams.
You have one life to live.
When my son died I created something to remind myself to live better bacause of him it’s called, “Gavin’s Law.”
Gavin’s law states: Live to start. Start to live.
CALL TO ACTION
My son lived for 76 days. I set my goals now in 76 day periods. Thousands have joined me and had massive success with a new day-by-day action guide I created in honor of my son, baby Gavin.
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