It’s Better to be interested instead of interesting
A great lesson from the book,“ How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
When I read the first chapter of this book “Do This And You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere” the most eye capturing and effective words which I like the most are “You can make more friends in two months by interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”
that shows the concept of being interested instead of interesting, as if you want that every one likes you, than you can’t do this unless you should show your keen interest in others, it is the human nature that require attention and care. If you gave the same attention, love and care to others ,which you want for yourself than by doing this you can grab automatically the same attention which you want, because when you show interest in others they are interested in you.As discussed in this book, The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study of telephone conversations to find out which word is more frequently used and the result was surprising,it is the personal pronoun “I” it was used 3900 times in 500 conversations.It means people don’t like to talk about you and me,instead they are interested in themselves.
similarly the concept is shown by author, who can write for others according the interest of their people not for himself, “If the author doesn’t like people, he said, “people won’t like his or her stories."
One of a great magician “Mr. Thurston”, the story behind their success was First give priority or attention to audience and second one is put your personality across footlights. He says “I love my audience”. Publilius Syrus, remarked; “We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”
The learning lesson from this book is that if you want others to like you, or want to develop real friendships, than greet the people in a way they want, not the way we like, get interested in them.
According to my experience, in the very interested challenge to understand the mentality of the interviewer .when I was talking with my friend with whom I never talked for a long time,I asked few questions about them ,about their studies, vacation,and future plan after studies than she gave me the answers very happily and started take interest in me about my studies and future plans. If we talk to people about what they are interested in, they will feel valued and value us in return.

The only way to make quality, lasting friendships is to learn to be genuinely interested in them and their interests.
