How to make new friends and how do we keep our old friends? Why its better to be interested than interesting in others?

Rida Shaheen
Jul 28, 2017 · 2 min read

As first part of the question is about making new friends, I totally think of making sudden friends or just to share a book and after that they are the best friends. To make new friends it is necessary to being good to others , friendly behaviour and your nature.

Few steps I really want to share about making new friends:

  1. Do it blind. Most of us have heard of the “blind date,” when we let a friend play matchmaker and set us up with someone we’ve never met before.
    2.Be yourself.
    3.Get up close and personal.
    4.Be persistent.
    5.Set a goal.
    6.Say cheese.
    7.Don’t take it personally.
    8.Think outside the box.

Second part of the question is about keeping old friends, I think those who gone with any kind of reason are not real friends. and those who always stands with us specially in our ups and downs are real or best friends of us.

Few steps of keeping old friends are:

1.Talk regularly together.
2.Stay in touch regularly, even if you aren’t physically near one another.
3.Have faith in your friend.
4.Remember the important things.
5.Respect each other’s choices in life.
6.Find fun things to do together.
7.Give one another space.
8.Don’t crowd out the friendship

Third and the final part of this talk is to be interested is more important than to be interesting in others. If you are going for an interview, it shows how much interested you are in them, how much you know about them, how much you researched about them to get a job. As I have an example of dating with someone else, you are not telling him or her what you are but always ask some questions about him or her what she wants from you and how you make her life easier and happy. If you are only talking about yourself than I think she rejected you.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie