There Is Nothing Bad About Asking For Help

It’s been four years since I attended my first discussion with a therapist. I remember the feeling back then. I feel weird but somehow excited that finally, I met someone that I can talk seriously about my issues and at least, trying to understand about my struggle.

When we are looking for someone to talk to, we choose the topic that we both understand. Adults won’t argue about politics with toddlers. A chef won’t talk about a recipe with carpenters unless the carpenters are good with cooking too. Some people prefer having a friend that around their age because they feel comfortable. There are also some people also need a friend who is above their age because of their experience. Personally, I am looking for a more experienced person rather than older age. Older age does not guarantee that the person also more experienced than I am. If I take an example, now I am studying English literature major. That it means I need someone who is knowledgeable enough about this subject so at least I can learn from them. Not only that, also I can make sure that I talk with someone who is credible enough about this subject so I can guarantee that I talk to the right person.

And when it comes to mental illness, there are still some people who are quiet about it. There is also a stigma based on this issue. According to Emma Watson speech on HeForShe campaign, there are young men that suffering from mental illness and they are unable to ask for help because of fear that it would make them less of a man. There are also in my environment that still think those mental illnesses as taboo, because it is related to myth or lack of faith. Sadly, that kind of thinking is still existing here. What I wanted to tell you is, it is okay to ask for help. Especially if you do not know what are you struggling and battling with. If you are physically unwell, seek a doctor. If you are mentally unwell, seek a therapist.

Then you will realize that you will be thankful for what you have done to yourself. Seeking professional help is a sign that you take ownership of your issues. It also means that you love yourself enough for treating your issue as soon as possible.

Rifka Alif Rahmasari

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