Everything you do the first time sucks! Sex! Long division! Writing lengthy diatribes to help people feel less lonely and more permanent! And yet some people grow up to be writers or math teachers or absolutely fierce in bed! Ever hear a fourth-grade band play “You’re A Grand Old Flag?!” It’s like listening to elephants orgasm! And yet, one of those kids is going to grow up to play a jazz club on a Friday night. Everything sucks at first. Very few things suck forever. You don’t train for a marathon by running a marathon over and over. You build up to it. Slowly. And you get better at it. You get comfortable with being uncomfortable. That’s how you overcome fear.