The Paralysis of Indecision
Living in the light of eternity changes your priorities — Rick Warren
This is a topic that I have to talk about because I am failing at it right now. I have been on the “struggle bus” about priorities. I flat out fail with them when I am stressed. Things in life will fight for your attention, but it is up to us to choose what we respond to. Right now, I am responding to everything that beeps, yelps, or screams. That is not a good life to live.
We are limited resources. Unfortunately in today’s culture we choose not to believe that. We find ourselves straddling between changing and staying the same. We do all of this for the sake of options.
Options are nice until you have too many. I am one of those guys that always keeps something open. If you have ever seen my laptop, iPhone or iPad, I keep multiple windows open. I have a major case of FOMO (fear of missing out) and it shows in my mind, my stress, and relationships. Over the years, the intentions of completing two tasks instead of choosing one have cost me. Whether it is rest, time with my wife, or having fun, the consequences for not choosing one or the other cause me to go into a tailspin of unnecessary stress. I just needed to make a single decision.
The origin of the word decide is Latin and comprises of two parts from de- ‘off’ + caedere ‘cut.’ When we make decisions we choose to cut something off of our lives. However, this isn’t a negative thing. It forces us to find what matters, and invest most of our effort and energy to the outcomes that we truly want out of life.
I have been told by my wife and several close friends that I can’t do it all. Finally I am starting to believe it. I am fairly young and I don’t want to be a stressed out for the rest of my life. I am choosing to change that for myself. Now the steps to get, there is the challenge 😓