The study uncovered three critical factors. A resilient child was ‘lucky’ enough to had a strong bond with a supportive caregiver, teacher, or other mentor figures. Most importantly, the kids that succeeded behave autonomously and independently — they met the world on their own terms. Lastly, they had self-control — they believed that they, not the environment, would define their fate.
…ate, we are basically handing over the reigns of control to other people and outside circumstances… While fate is what happens when you don’t take responsibility for your life, destiny is what happens when you commit to growing, learning, and taking chances… Fulfilling our destiny involves consciously developing a connection to our deepest inner selves and maturing on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level.
…we should have the lowest confidence when we know the least. However, Dunning and Kruger found that when we don’t know what we don’t know, we overestimate our abilities. Or, as philosopher Bertrand Russell famously put it: “The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.”