4 Ways To Stop Settling For Less In Life
Aspirational April-The Month of Blooming into Who You Want to Be!
World Book Day & Happy Easter!
This week I decided to read “Don’t Settle For Safe” by Sarah Jakes Robert’s, this book is the light that I needed, especially when I feel like I’m second-guessing myself we’re settling for less than what I deserve. This book allows you to put things in perspective, and to push past whatever is holding you back from where you need to be.
I will be discussing:
- Stop Agreeing To What You Don’t Want
- Understand Exactly What You Want
- You Don’t Deserve Scraps, You Deserve The Whole Meal
- Love Yourself, Before You Look For Love
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If I could some up this book into one word it would have to be the word Resilient: able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.
1. Stop Agreeing To What You Don’t Want
In order to stop being seen as a yes man or woman, you simply have to stop settling for what you don’t want.
If you blindly agree with anything that comes at you it will become part of your identity. How others see you, so whenever you are asked something you don’t want to do.
You should simply think of what you actually want instead, or if it’s worth your time. Try to only listen to your response instead of those around you, after all, it is your life.
2. Understand Exactly What You Want
In order to get what you want, you must know exactly what you want. And communicate clearly so that there is no way you are misunderstood.
Think long and hard on what exactly you want whether it may seem big or small, it’s important to also discuss it with friends, family, and acquaintances.
Say it loud write it down it’s important you need to be sure that what you want is heard and seen.
3. You Don’t Deserve Scraps, You Deserve The Whole Meal
Stop allowing yourself to be mistreated and making excuses for the people that hurt you.
Don’t simply ignore what hurt you but try to heal from it through seeking counseling. Or even speaking with the person that did the damage, your feelings are valid no matter what.
Even if others can’t understand it you should try your best to move forward in any way you can. And remember that you are worthy, even if they can’t see it and that’s okay because one day they will.
4. Love Yourself, Before You Look For Love
You can’t find or show someone to how to love you; if you’ve never done so yourself.
This is something that I still struggle with but I understand that it’s something that can’t be undone in a day.
By simply dating anyone that comes your way you are actually lowering your value. Simply taking whatever kind of love that they give you even if its just abuse and heartbreak.
Remember to keep your self-identity, don’t lose yourself in the one you love, so even if the love fades you will still have you.
Would I Buy Or Read Again?
Can I see myself re-reading Sarah Jakes Robert’s book “Don’t Settle For Safe” again? Yes! Can I see myself even purchasing “Don’t Settle For Safe”? Yes, her tone in this book makes you feel seen.
Although you may have gone through some bad things doesn’t mean your life will always be bad. Things will get better, you just have to change how you feel and know that you deserve better.
The Question of the Week is inspired by Sarah Jakes Robert’s book “Don’t Settle For Safe”. Do you sometimes ‘Settle for Safe’?
Answer: I do sometimes, but I know that I can’t grow unless I get out of my comfort zone.
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