Dear Child of Mine (Part 1)
Dear Child of Mine,
Whether you read this 5 years from now, 20 years from now, or whether you ever read this all… I wanted to take so time to address some things I feel that you should know.
I’ll do my best to make sure this doesn’t turn into one of those “What I wish someone had told me” kind of thing. I just share with you experiences I’ve had that helped me and continues to help me traverse through this circus called life in the hopes that these experiences also help you.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
I start you off with this quote because it’s really important that you understand the significance in being yourself. I have always been a bit different than most people in the way that I view the world and how I approach certain aspects of life. This has caused me plenty of problems in my short lifetime but I have to say it’s been worth it. Staying true to who you are is the most powerful tool you can have in your arsenal. Never allow anyone to take that power away from you. It may seem easier at times to try to conform to a particular group or trend in order to not be a social outcast, but what people don’t tell you is that every time you let someone change a part of who you are, it’s hard to get that part back, if you can get it back at all.
If you ever find yourself in a situation where you don’t have much of a choice but to conform to the environment around you, try to make that conformity as superficial as possible so that you never lose your sense of self. You see, I was in the military for a while and they do everything in their power to take your individualism away from you from the moment you take that first step off the bus at basic training. They were wildly unsuccessful in breaking me, but that wasn’t figured out until I was done with basic and AIT because I managed to put up a good front in order to not get smoked constantly haha.
Now I’m not saying I didn’t conform because I did, but it was more that I added a layer to myself instead of just changing. I was in a situation where I was on a team where one person wanting to do their own thing could prove disastrous for everyone around them. The thing is I was able to find a balance between being another cog in the machine while having my own mind and personality. What a lot of people won’t tell you is that individualism can often be the key to a team’s success. A lot of the most successful companies in the world are only successful because they have a team of individuals who put their own unique thoughts, ideas, and personality together to form something amazing.
You are already an amazing person with an amazing spirit and I will do the best that I can to always nurture that and not try to hinder you from being who you truly are. The world is full of gray crayons… and if you want to be a purple crayon, you go out there and be the best damn purple crayon out there. Mom’s got your 6. Until next time.