HOLIDAY BLUES, BLAHS AND BLESSINGS!

Grief can be emotionally, mentally, spiritually and even physically painful. Death and grief are no respecters of person. Regardless of whether the death of a loved one is anticipated or sudden, the pain can be difficult to bare. Grief is our natural response to death and loss. It is a universal process that at some point and time we all will endure. Endurance is the key to grief. It doesn’t just go away, it takes time. Try to be patient with yourself as well as with friends and family who are grieving. If you try to escape and rush through your grief, in time it only worsens. It’s best to allow yourself to feel what you feel and to express those emotions.

As Christians we are not excluded from feeling the pain of grief. There are many Biblically examples of death, loss and grief. Even Jesus grieved. Nevertheless, our faith allows us to move forward at our own pace. Our faith reminds us that there is hope as God comforts us, heals our pain, allows us to take refuge in Him and gives us peace that surpasses all understanding. As you go through the darkness death brings, you will eventually see light which will restore your strength. Hold on to the hope that every day God will comfort you and wipe every tear from your eyes. Therefore, be encouraged. Even though it seems like the dark days will never end, there is light and we have the promise that not only will God walk with us in the valley, He will not ever leave us alone and one day we will see our beloved again.

The holidays can exasperate grief. During a time that is supposed to be festive, joyful and celebratory, grieving hearts feel loneliness, sorrow and hopelessness. Grief doesn’t disappear on holidays and special occasions. The love for those who have died often appears heightened during these milestones and special days. Have hope in knowing that you will make it through the holiday season. Lean into your grief. Allow yourself to give space to your emotions. Give yourself permission to hold on to old traditions, create new ones or not to celebrate at all. Do what you feel as long as it is healthy and meaningful to you.

You will find that you can move from the blues and blahs to feeling blessed. In time you will be able to be a blessing as you share the memories, stories, love and tributes with others. Therefore, be hopeful that joy will come again. Be blessed as you allow others to support, encourage and love you. Be blessed as you rest in the presence of God, as you pray and as you worship.

May God grant you peace and Holiday Blessings! Be BLESSED!