Unpaid Debt of Betrayal
When someone chooses to betray a relationship, it’s like taking out a loan they can never repay. Even if they change their ways and try to make up for their past actions, the debt remains.
Those who betray relationships often don’t see their actions as a big deal. They think it’s just a little fling. They don’t realize the hurt they cause. Or, they’re just running away from the problem. They ignore or avoid the consequences because they only care about themselves.
That’s why we say betrayal is selfish. If someone wasn’t selfish, they would think about their partner’s feelings before acting. They would understand that betrayal is a deeply painful experience.
People who say “It’s no big deal” are only saying that because they are the ones doing the betraying. If you were the one who got betrayed, would you be so nonchalant?
So, if you’ve been betrayed, you need to understand this. Especially if you’re trying to save your relationship. You need to know that the person who betrayed you is inherently selfish. They might hurt you again to get what they want.
Your real work isn’t to change them. It’s to learn to love and protect yourself. You need to avoid getting hurt again.
Sadly, many people who experience betrayal don’t understand this. They either focus on whether to stay or…
