“Passive” and “Denial” are historically my go-to strategies (thanks, Therapy, for helping me name and accept those traits, instead of passively denying them*).

“Recognition”, “Acceptance” and “Empathy” are high risk responses for me. By extending myself into a volatile situation and exposing the real me with someone I already know can hurt me, I am working just as hard at not clenching up as I am at reaching out to communicate.

I am grateful for the well said reminder to continue working towards these better responses as my default. Staying present in the situation as it really is and responding with kindness are learned skills. The best part of your advice is that by practicing those skills, I can also teach them.

* whoa. it’s turtles all the way down.