I have watched people, young people, smart people, even semi healthy people, be ruined by the “love” of their family, either their own misguided attempts at loving them or even worse, the love their family shows them, which is really hidden abuse. The amount of women I have seen abused by being called fat, slutty, stupid and any other name in the guise of loving them is horrible. People add so much of their own problems and issues on to their kids that I am surprised any of them become functional adults at all. I have said this numerous times in my life, how do parents NOT realize they are raising an adult, not a child? Keeping kids hidden from sex, problems, life itself does not make you a good parent. Teaching your kids to make proper decisions while letting them make mistakes, mistakes they will see in time, will help them grow and become adults. I watched one mother who raised her kid to so fear rape and molestation that it was the only sexual experience the child understood, so much so that she developed both a fear AND an excitement by the idea of negative interactions. She at one point really did believe she would be raped and basically just waited for it. She is currently not speaking to her parents last we spoke. She is in college and dealing with a lot of her issues, which is better than some of the people I have met online.
Many people including me have stopped talking to their family only to realize what a liberating experience it becomes. My girlfriend stopped talking to her Mom for 18 months, and although I know it hurt my girlfriend, it was the right choice. Unfortunately at some point she ended up talking with her and now her Mom just ignores her own issues as always and makes her feel bad.
Your family SHOULD care for you unconditionally, and that is something that rarely happens nowadays. Which is why your family, and mine, are my friends who might piss us off in many ways, but we do love them and they love us and we all do the best we can. I fully support your decision to not talk to anyone in your life, family, friends and otherwise who decide to treat you or others like crap. It will only make your life a more wonderful thing.
