How New Technologies Changed Relationships for a Generation

Robert Oldman
Nov 3 · 3 min read

Not so long ago, singles often faced a series of hurdles when it came to getting acquainted with potential partners. There were certainly many outlets, such as bars, nightclubs or social functions. They might be introduced by mutual friends. But this has all changed in recent years, thanks to the advent of social media and internet dating. Having ready access to an online dating site has given a whole generation of singles access to a convenient platform where anyone has the tools at their disposal to arrange their personal life, and all from the comfort of their own homes.

You have so much to choose from

Picture yourself as a younger person (or if you’re still young, think of the typical Friday or Saturday night described by a parent or older sibling!) Seeking dates meant heading into various nightspots, typically singles bars or social clubs, and keeping an eye out for the signals given off by other singles looking to hook up. This could be a fraught process, as it was often impossible to work out who would be the most compatible individuals without knowing the slightest thing about a stranger’s background. Technology has revolutionized the dating game. Now you can delve into a prospective partner’s profile after homing into this information in a laptop or smartphone screen, examining hobbies and interests, gaining a rounded appreciation of what makes them tick long before approaching them.

Online dating can become addictive

One thing post-technology dating has with the pre-technology version is the way daters can get a ‘buzz’ from the thrill of the chase. Whether you’re at a speed-dating event or selecting which single to start messaging based on their online profile, it can be extremely exciting. There are scientific reasons for this, as the human body will secretes dopamine in these circumstances, a chemical released by the brain (which can equate to the same feelings stimulated by drug use!) There is something immensely thrilling about having so many people clamoring for your attention as singles browse through the profiles on dating sites, their destiny lying at their fingertips.

One of the most significant ways technology has truly transformed relationships is in the way it has made it so convenient to reach out to other singles. Because online dating resources and social media sites are available as apps as well as websites, site users can login to their accounts at any time. Social media is everywhere these days, with many people spending an inordinate amount of their free time plugged into their laptops or smart devices. If you’re traveling on the train or bus on your daily commute, it’s typical to see a host of fellow passengers bowed over laptops, tablets or mobile phones. While some of them will be watching their favorite Netflix feature, many will be busy interacting with other singles on their favorite dating site. While there are undoubted positives of keeping abreast of the latest developments, there can be no denying the equally detrimental aspects of having such ready access to such a strong distraction. Spending so much time on different social media sites might have a particularly negative impact on relationships, so you should be cautious.

Discover the whole world of Internet dating

Unlike dating in previous generations, where you were tied to the limited pool of talent sharing the nightclub you happened to be in, a dating website will introduce you to talent from all over the world. One minute you could be chatting with someone from a neighboring town, the next moment you might be striking up a rapport with a wonderful and vibrant single who happens to be located in a different timezone. With Skype and the likes at your disposal, it can be just as easy, and exciting, to touch base.

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