And sweetest — in the Gale — is heard
And sore must be the storm -
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm
— from Hope is the thing with feathers by Emily Dickinson
In October 2001 Debra Searle entered in the Ward Evans Atlantic Rowing Challenge with her then-husband Andrew Veal. A few days into the race, as they hit open water, Debra found Andrew below deck in the fetal position suffering acute agoraphobia. The pair had done all their training on the Thames and hadn’t anticipated his reaction to the wide sea. He couldn’t…
Note — this is a living document. As I grow in my coaching and life experience this will shift and change.
For me, the act of coaching is being your companion into your inner world. In that world I am fully in service to something that is really important to you. Before we’ve gone adventuring you and I make an agreement on what is important to you so that I know I’m looking for, what I’m accountable for in helping you find.
This can be anything from transitioning jobs, growing in a leadership position, get through a grieving process, working…
I know how to save the world.
And you’re not going to like it.
The neurologist Donald Calne said:
The essential difference between emotion and reason is that reason leads to conclusions, while emotion leads to action.
Every day we are get broadcasts telling us how the earth is dying. I know that buying that bottle of water means that bottle is probably going to end up in landfill; further choking an already asthmatic planet. I know that every flight I go on, every bite of a beef burger that I take is driving not just our race to extinction…
I’ve stopped selling. For these first three months of 2018 I am only building relationships. These are my three rules.
1. Listen like a mofo
Listen. Listen to what people are saying. Listen with your entire body. Listen with your eyes. Listen and shut up. Listen and don’t think about what you’re going to say next to make yourself look smart. Even when you think they’ve stopped speaking; wait. They often have more to say. You’re going to learn so much: about that person, about the world, about yourself.
2. Don’t worry about whether someone “could get me somewhere”
A week ago, I was talking to friends about my work coaching TED speakers and helping businesses shape their stories.
On hearing the S-word, my friend groaned. “Ugh, I need help with my story.”
I hear this every day from entrepreneurs, established business leaders and new start-ups, people who’ve ditched their jobs to merge their passion with their business.
So what on earth do they mean? I’ve noticed three main threads.
1. How do I tell my story so people understand what I can offer them?
2. How do I make sense of my life…
At a party, when people ask me what I do, I say I’m a Storytelling Consultant.
Eyebrows go up. “What’s that?”. And fair enough — I don’t think it’s immediately clear either. But here’s how I’ve got to this point.
I have a sense that storytelling has been lost at large. When the storytellers gathered around a campfire to tell a tale they were in no doubt who their audience was. These days, when the time between start and release of a product can be weeks or months, the audience can be easy to ignore. …
Every time I get a notification on my phone it buzzes. When my phone buzzes I have a physical reaction — a tiny panic in the pit of my stomach. I think the feeling sits somewhere between “What do they want?”, “What have I missed” and “Who loves me?”
When this happens I reach into my pocket, pull out my phone and, no matter what I’m up to at that moment, look at the notification — from Twitter, Instagram, email, Facebook, etc. Often I won’t respond to it immediately. Now, I’m literally in two minds. There was the activity…
A friend and I went to lunch. We hadn’t seen each other for a long time. He is more experienced than I am and I always value his view on the world. He asked me how I was and I replied I was frustrated with my job and unsure of where to go next.
He pulled out a piece of paper and drew the following matrix on it.
Then we began.
“What would your father say about money?”
I answered and we filled it in.
“What would your mother say about money?”
“What would your grandmother on your…
What’s the measure for doing something? What’s the measure to stop doing something?
In this radio interview with Dean and Josh from Queens of the Stone Age, Josh says the following regarding playing songs off their new album live:
I am more goosebump ratio to non-goosebump ratio than I’ve ever been when playing music. Dean has a kid. I have two. If we’re going to be away from them then when we walk off stage there won’t be any of us left after every show. Now I just want to give you the creeps. I want you to feel some…
It is something simple. And it constantly surprises me. It’s this. The story doesn’t exist unless it is spoken (or written).
If you tell a story one day to one person and then tell that same story to someone else the next do you think it’s the same story? In some ways yes. The events, the characters and hold it unfolds but in most important ways it isn’t.
Why is this?
The reason your telling the story might be different. Even if is the same, the person opposite you will interpret it differently and find their own meaning…
All the stuff I’m curious about and am exploring. Leadership, service and growth.