
No matter how level-headed my responses are, if I include even the slightest bit of criticism in my writing, or do not candy-coat my directness in a sufficiently thick layer of honey, I will get accused of being “hostile” by someone. This is a very common experience shared by women who write on the internet. The reason is complex enough to be its own post but it involves our limbic system’s deep, physiologically-rooted subconscious desires to be met with approval by that which we perceive as feminine.