Leading a happier life

A conversation with my dear and loving wife prompted me to write this post.

It takes all sorts to make this world. There are some people who are so busy surviving that they dont hae time for anything else. There are some that are so fulfilled with what they are doing that they dont need anything else.

And then there are some people who often find themselves wondering if they are doing enough with their lives. This post is for them.

To frame this question in another way..is the person you see when you stand in front of a mirror, the best possible version of the person you can be?

In order to answer this, I wtried to look for a formula or an equation of sorts — something that can help to easily identify if we are on track . This post is about this formula. I call it the 3 Pillars or HWS — Health, Wealth and Self.

As long as you are working towards improving your health, generating wealth or improving your self in the most productive way possible, your time is being well spent.

So lets talk about what I mean. Ever pillar needs attention and we all have the same 24 hours in a day as everyone else. Assuming you need 8 hours of sleep every night, that leaves you with 16 hours a day in which you focus on these pillars.

Lets start with the first one.

You might be earning 10,000$ a month working in a 9 to 5 job . That’s generating wealth so technically that is one of the core pillars. But you could be earning the same amount working freelance with the same number of hours put in. Or at another company that pays you 10%/15%/20% more -that would mean your not being the most productive you can be on your little pillar ( this is of course only valid if there are companies out there in your line of work offering to pay you more)

an alternative could be a company that offers you less with less working hours or another company that offers you more for more working hours. Both are actually valid options to consider. The one with lower working hours could actually give you the time to work on another pillar, such as your health, for instance) As long as the time saved is invested in another valid pillar and not, say, in reading the 500 fantasy/science fiction novels on my to read list or the mountain of video games Ive been waiting to play, that’s not too bad.

Of course, the best kind of wealth generation would be one where you don't need to nurture it everyday — Royalty streams for instance. So if you need to carve some time out of your life to create a permanent stream , go get that done. And then come back to the pillars. Set yourself a timeline within which you will accomplish it though for many people lose track of time and never stop pursuing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Still others get disillusioned too early. A timeline is essential for all goals that you set.

Health is the next big pillar to focus on and let’s be honest a lot of us don’t really do a lot on this one. If you do work out/exercise but also eat a lot of carbs and sugar, you aren't really working on your pillar. if you don't eat the junk food, but exercise only intermittently, that also doesn't work. The emphasis is on being the best version that you can be and usually, most of us are doing a lot less exercise than we should.

Self happens to be a tricky one, since the pursuit of any sort of meaningful goal (meaningful to you) could be considered. Want to learn the guitar? Do a drama class? learn a new language? Practice public speaking? It doesn't matter really what you choose as long as it makes you happy.

There’s only one problem with self. While it is meant to be enjoyable, it is also meant to push you out of your comfort zone. I love board gaming and reading and watching television, but those don’t qualify as self- they qualify as hobbies or self indulgence. If there are goals where the end result is something you desire , but the process feels laborious, those are self goals.

To conclude — every time you find yourself wondering if you are doing enough with your life, evaluate it with these 3 goals and see how you are doing on each of them.