The Brouhaha on Rape/Sexual Assault/’Writers Excesses’

These words, ‘writers excesses’ was used by Chijioke Amu-nnadi, a Nigerian writer and poet, who is currently facing some scandals on sexually assaulting his female mentees. Before I give my perception of rape, let me first disagree with Mr Chijioke on using that word ‘writer excesses’ in his assumed apology letter, to his colleagues and victims. ‘Writer excesses’ is like saying all writers are rapist and forcefully sleep with their younger colleagues. Using the word ‘writer excesses is like giving a dirty slap to your victim as well as spitting on their faces… ‘I’m sorry is I’m sorry; not, I’m sorry but you know I have some excesses’. You don’t do that, it like disrespecting womanhood.

That said;
That thing they call rape or ‘sexual assault-harassment’… There are always five sides to the story; the victims story, the victims supporters club story, the accused story, the accused supporters story and the ‘real story’.

Most often than not, we don’t get to the ‘real story’ before we pounce on the victim or accused.

The problem with ascertaining the ‘real story’ is that, often times, the listeners(and both camps supporters) are always blinded by emotions, the tellers(the accused/victims) don’t tell it all or some gang, usually Feminist, hijack the scenario, and use it as an opportunity to drive home their point about what we can sum up as ‘female marginalisation’.

I also feel that, we can hardly reach the truth, if the accused are usually some very successful persons in the society or some celebrities. Hold on, before you tear me apart, I’m not saying successful people or celebrities should be granted immunity to rape, assault and allowed to ‘eat pomo’ of any lady against their will, what I’m advocating for is this, victims should be more vigilant, by getting evidence whenever they are molested. In most cases, it is advisable to report the case immediately we experience these things.

When it comes to minors, parents should try as much as possible to take up the case before it takes long. Parent should rekindle in their children, the act of trust; where children can say exactly what goes on in their live, without fear or intimidation.

My suggestion is this; our society needs to do more too by creating centres all over the state, preferably in hospitals, where victims of rape can report rape cases; and a test conducted on them to ascertain forceful penetration.
I have listened to a rape victim narrate her ordeal to me, truth is, its very hard believing them, even when they are saying the truth. Imagine if a friend doesn’t believe them, how much more an outsider, hence, these centres should be put in place to support the claim of genuine rape victims.

Our security personnel should learn the act of respecting every citizen, be it rich or poor. We can’t have law enforcement agents bending the law in favour of celebrities or rich people. I think the federal government need to employ experts in criminology and security, both home and abroad, in each state, to see to it that criminal cases are thoroughly investigated and perpetrators brought to book. 
Till date, those who killed Abiola, Bola Ige, Dele Giwa, Saro Wiwa, Funsho Williams, et al, are still walking free in Nigeria, how much more rapist.

We can’t continue this way. Every life should matter to us.

(c) Roluseye