You do not get to change the definitions of words to fit your argument. I haven’t claimed either oppression or victimhood. Nor am I likely to in this life. I’m very aware of my built in advantage, and I know the difference between oppression and any perceived loss of privilege.
The definitions of misandry and misogyny don’t require oppression. They mean contempt for an entire gender. And it’s kind of important that you understand this distinction. If you hate people who have wronged you, that is understandable. If they were all men, no one would blame you for being suspicious of men in the future.
But when you “despise” people you don’t know, not for what they’ve done, but just because of their identity, whatever it is, you’ve wandered into being some kind of -ist. What that -ist turns out to be depends on what attribute you’ve chosen to hate.
Now, I do understand why you might feel the way you do. Misogyny generally has far more serious consequences than misandry. Women die everyday because of some guy’s contempt for them. And that has everything to do with power and society.
But the base attitudes are the same — contempt for an entire gender. What you’re highlighting are the consequences of those prejudices, which, while very real, are not core issue. The core issue is the hatred. Without the hatred, those consequences don’t exist.
You’ve advertised that hatred in your profile. And that’s sad. As the Buddha once said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”