Well, I see a lot of push back in the responses. On the plus side, the author seems willing to question the old feminist notions and is open to some other kind of understanding. However, it is a difficult topic, in part because there is very large variation among men and among women. Generalizations won’t work. Blame doesn’t work either. In my opinion, biology is at least a possible starting point for insight, if insight is possible. That’s all; I must resist going on and on this topic about which I have too many thoughts but very little personal experience.
I do agree with this: entertainment media has caused trouble in male minds, and perhaps female minds, by displaying men and women that are far out of reach for most us as romantic partners, setting the standard in our brains far too high.