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According to Rooit’s survey, 73% of females seek a relaxed feeling when they are chatting with strangers.

So, what does it take to create this feeling for your chat partner?

1. Don’t hang on desperately to a chat partner.

Rooit encourages great conversations, which can lead to you developing feelings for your chat partner. There’s nothing wrong with it (in fact, we’re more than happy if that happens!), but you might find yourself wanting to prove yourself desperately so much that it creates unnecessary stress for the both of you.

If both of you are willing to take the relationship one step further, congratulations; if the other partner wants to end the conversation, respect their choice and move on to a new friend.

2. Don’t do a lengthy self-introduction.

Go straight to the point and talk about your feelings or the situation with your chat partner, instead of doing a long self-introduction right at the start. Just imagine that your chat partner is a friend that you already know so that it won’t feel awkward anymore!

3. Don’t overuse ‘awkward’ language.

Admit it, we are all guilty of this at some point of time, even with close friends. Try to avoid using too many ‘haha’, ‘lol’, ‘lmao’ — it will just make your conversation even more awkward.

4. Cut down on close-ended questions.

Instead of always asking questions that kill the conversation, try asking open-ended questions that will encourage your chat partner to ask more questions or tell more about their stories. You can get them to talk more about their favourite pet, or introduce you to some places that sell the best satay 😉

5. Don’t intrude on people’s privacy too early into the conversation.

No one wants to have a background check done on them at the beginning of a conversation with a stranger— it definitely rings a few alarm bells, and makes it tough for your chat partner to feel relaxed anymore when you behave like the FBI.

6. Don’t overload your negativity on others.

We know many users go on Rooit to find someone to share their problems with, but there’s a limit to how much a person can take, right? Instead of ranting to just one person, why not find a few more friends in different chatrooms to share your worries and troubles with?

7. Give each other some breathing space.

We know you love your chat partner, but they also need their own time and space. If you keep asking them about all kinds of things (“Have you eaten lunch?” “What did you eat?” “Where are you going for dinner?”) everyday, it gets a little stifling for the other person, who may think that you have nothing better to do with your life 😓

Once in a while, let your chat partner reinitiate the conversation. If they don’t do so, you should just move on to find someone new to talk to.

There’s no point in reading this if you don’t put what you’ve just learnt into practice —so go on Rooit now to try out these 7 tips!

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