You missed the entire point of the article. You cannot gloss over your benefit from this system by saying “ I understand that I and my family benefit from the society that killed the natives and enslaved the Africans”. That is the entire issue and how unfair you find that pales in comparison to the loss of lives. Understanding truly what that means is to weigh that against another’s experience and see how vapid a response referencing that “unfairness” would be. If you understood that you still benefit from this system, you would work to change it. It may be that you are not as blind as some members of your family but you still choose to be silent because it would be too difficult to convince your father that his views are one sided. Man up. Nobody cares that you find the TRUTH unfair.