Many of the men that are largely considered the ‘fathers’ of psychotherapy are household names. Names like Freud, Jung, Rogers, for example, are known by most people. Less well known are the names of the ‘mothers’ of psychotherapy like Gilligan, Miller, Klein, Chodorow, Satir, to name a few. …


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Anger is a common and often misunderstood emotion between mothers and daughters. In my therapy work with mothers and daughters, I hear how deeply angry mothers and daughters of all ages can be with each other, how intensely hurt they feel when they don’t feel heard, understood, or valued. Mothers tell me that they feel taken-for-granted by their adult daughters. They want to be a source of help and support for their daughter with childcare for example, but they don’t want to end up feeling that helping-out is all they’re good for. Mothers want to feel emotionally connected to their daughter. They want to feel known by their daughter, important to their daughter, not just for the support they provide, but as a person. They want their daughter, regardless of how busy her life is, to show that her connection with her mother is important to her and deserving of time and attention. And I hear the same from daughters. Teenage and adult daughters tell me that their mother typically turns to them, rather than her husband, partner, other family members or friends when she has a problem. …


Systemic sexism has re-emerged into the collective consciousness and global conversation since the #MeToo and #BelieveHer movements came into existence. Just like during the 1960’s when women joined consciousness raising groups in which they shared their daily experiences with sexism and misogyny, women today are calling out the deeply embedded and normalized sexism in our society. …

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Rosjke Hasseldine

Rosjke Hasseldine founder “Mother-Daughter Coaching International”, training organization, author of “The Silent Female Scream” & “The Mother-Daughter Puzzle”.

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