I get what you’re saying, Vernon.
Lerissa Patrick

Thank you for the reply but I have to disagree with you on my feelings. They don’t actually come from a place of discomfort. I’m fine with people being pissed off if that’s the way they choose to express whatever they’re dealing with and women are no exception. Being raised in a female house with a mother that came up in the civil rights error and personally experienced discrimination on a level I doubt most of us could understand. I recall the stories of when she was very active with the movement and being spat on and told she couldn’t eat, drink or sit in the same place as someone else based on her color.

This is the advice my mother gave to me and my sister. You can’t control what other people do to you or say about you but what you can control is your reaction to it. You can give them power by hating them or you can remove power from their actions by loving them. Don’t take it personally and understand the problem is with them. Of course you’re going to be angry and you have to defend yourself, but let go of the feelings around the action and love the person in spite of who they are.

That’s the advice I’ve lived by and it’s served me pretty well. I understand and respect your feelings and your right to not see things from my perspective. We’re just at different places in our experience but I sincerely appreciate your response because it communicates a perspective that’s different some I’m sure either I or someone else will learn from it.

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