Thank you, Jolie, for this reminder!
Born female into Northern European culture, I was socialised to make sure everyone else was OK before paying attention to my own needs and desires. The Fem-form of thinking is not altogether a bad thing; it is often the 'Something Is Missing' in personal and institutional decision-making scenarios.
Thing is, it gets pretty dangerous for you when the others take all there is to give.
I, too, am learning to change that outcome!