Marriage is not beans
Couples face lots of challenges.
Family problems are enough to ruin couples.
Successful marriages are becoming rare.
Read this amazing comment from Jay Parker (I)
Why? What causes the rarity?
Lots of internal and exogenous factors.
- Money and finances
- Job and time demands
- Friends, relatives, neighbors, coworkers
- Lifestyle including incongruent hobbies
I am lucky to be going on 40 years of peaceful wedded bliss
And 2 of them were good!
But, at my age, I can’t remember which 2!
Compatibility. We think alike. We have the same goals.
Ditch the macho bullshit. Mellow out and go with the flow. Do your “honeydew” list. Honey, do this. Honey, do that.
Don’t expect your wife to do everything. Help out. Do your share. And more. Remember, the song says “….I’ll go do the dishes, you go have a beer….”
(I get tears in my eyes thinking about that… it is what my mom said to my dad in the 1950’s and ‘60’s.)
You’re right. Marriage is not beans.