This idea is harmful — but not in the way you’d expect.

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Have you ever heard this statement? It may be in a well-intentioned, lightly mocking way by a non-white friend. Or, it could even by a self-deprecating white person who thinks that stating as such makes them seem “woke” and supportive of non-white communities.

Ah, yes. We all know the stereotypes.

Bland food, bad dancing, preppy outfits — and often a good helping of Karenesque entitlement for good measure. This stereotype of “white people” — essentially stemming from the “WASP” middle to upper-class white Americans — is now a trope known globally.


A curious, untapped joy.

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So, I’ve been a little MIA. After a lockdown of weekly Medium articles keeping me sane, I suddenly got pretty quiet these last couple of months. Well, here’s what I’ve been up to.

After bouncing between Europe’s major capital cities all my adult life — from London, to Paris, to Brussels — I have now moved countries yet again — to Spain! But this time around, it’s a little different.

Alas, I haven’t gone full-on off-grid to reminisce of my English countryside upbringing, where my only neighbours were cows and sheep (for real though), and I could walk for a few miles without seeing another human. …


But is it worth trying to save them?

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The EU currently boasts 24 official languages, but this region is also home to numerous regional languages beyond the likes of our beloved Spanish, French and Italian. From Sicilian to Silesian, Gaelic to Galician, Venetian to Valencian— there’s more to the European language story we are often told...

Often pushed to the side-lines, some of these regional vernaculars — the hipster equivalents of languages, if you will — have even been threatened with extinction because, quite frankly, people aren’t speaking them as much.

So what can we do to ensure these less prominent languages live on? …


What’s in a name? In publishing, a lot!

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As I’ve written about before, I’m a ghostwriter. If you want to find out more about what that entails, then check that article out first. But to sum up, people have an idea for a book but need help with the actual writing part. So they come to me, tell me their idea, I write it, they pay me a fixed sum, they publish the book under their name – or a name of their own choosing, at least – and (hopefully) make a pretty penny from the advances and royalties. We all win.

When ghostwriting gets complicated

As you can imagine, this process always comes with complications. From whether to acknowledge my input somehow, how – if at all – I am allowed to share extracts of the book with future potential clients, and of course, the pretty big issue of how much to charge. …


I beg your pardon!

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As a Brit writing in a largely American-dominated pool (not just the Americans themselves, but all those who practise the American English dialect, might I add), I can often feel like a teabag in a coffee pot, a scone among doughnuts (or donuts), a top hat in a cowboy’s wardrobe (or closet), if you will…

Yes, as you may have guessed, I’m talking about UK versus American English.

But what’s the big deal? We understand each other well enough, right? Save for the odd mishap over the definition of “biscuit” or how to say aluminium, data, or herb.

We speak the same language, after all. …


No, “men” are not the enemy.

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Here we go. Another article on feminism. When will those entitled, whiny white women (who I probably don’t find attractive anyway so I mean…why even care what they have to say?) give it a rest?

Why do they hate men so much? Why do they shun the women who want to have kids, or get married, or don’t subscribe to the “career woman” ideal?

Why are they so angry?

If these are your thoughts — even if only quietly at the back of your mind, as you roll your eyes upon seeing the terms “feminism” or “feminist” pop up yet again in another headline or social media post, then you’ve got feminism all wrong. …


In the cockpit, formalities can kill.

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We are hearing more and more about how we should learn to let go of our innate obsession with pleasing others in order to quit being a slave to our fear of causing upset, and to do whatever it is that we need to do (within reason…) to be fulfilled and feel ourselves.

This is all well and good — and an important message for our personal development no doubt. But wait, it’s more than that.

Some disturbing research shows that in certain cases, our inescapable urge to conform and a culture of obedience and submission can have potentially lethal consequences. …


Two polar opposites — and yet so many of us experience both.

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Anxiety and depression. Those two loaded terms that hold so much weight and spark so many emotions in modern society. Most of us claim to suffer from at least one from time to time. But what is making us so anxious and depressed?

What actually constitutes “anxiety” and “depression”? And can you really suffer from both simultaneously?

Depression: Fuelled by Your Own High Standards

Depression is defined by the British National Health Service as:

‘Lasting feelings of unhappiness and hopelessness, to losing interest in the things you used to enjoy and feeling very tearful.’

Apart from the symptoms of hopelessness and fatigue, depression is also defined by psychologists as the feeling that you are failing your own standards or expectations of yourself. Depression is ultimately a damaged sense of self-worth. The symptoms range from sleeping more, to insomnia, to a lack of interest, energy, and hope. …


The truth about “First World Problems.”

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We have all made a joke here and there about “First World Problems” — your favorite coffee place ran out of soy milk? (First World Problems). You have “too much choice” at the supermarket and it’s overwhelming? (First World Problems). “Boring” day?— yes, this is also a “First World Problem”…

However embarrassing and shameful we find such irks to complain about — when there is war, starvation, and a pandemic, going on right now in the world — we still do it.

But since it seems the whole developed world is plunging into a mental health crisis, are these so-called “first world problems” at least partially to blame? …


The gender gap no one is talking about.

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Here I go again trying to delve into what these charged terms of “masculinity” and “femininity” really mean… I discussed before whether “toxic femininity” exists like we claim “toxic masculinity” does, as well as why many feminists seem to shun the femininity that it was initially intended to defend and empower, along with a whole host of other issues I have with where the feminist movement is headed today…

I also explored recently how our gender may affect how we experience mental health problems. This is just one example of the research suggesting our brains could be somewhat differently wired (gasp!), another being that women are more likely to be empathetic yawners due to their increased ability to form social bonds and connect on an emotional level with a group. …

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Roxanna Azimy

Interested in all things ethics, culture, gender, health & psychology. Asking the hard questions but not claiming to have all the answers. roxannaazimy.com

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