Why I Am Not Mourning 9/11

Do you really want to bring the past forward?

There is a quote on a building in Santa Fe, New Mexico:

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
George Santayana

I disagree. We, as a collective, are constantly living in the past and using it as a basis to predict the future, instead of living in the present and looking for signs of what’s changed and for what’s working, now. You’ve heard the platitudes about the present is a gift, it’s all we have, your power is in the present, be here now.

They are true. So why don’t more people act accordingly?

I imagine it’s because the lure of collective empathy and awfulizing is so strong and the fear of being seen as dispassionate or cold-hearted is intense.

Anyone who knows me, knows I am neither dispassionate nor cold-hearted, at least most of the time. I am today wanting to creating a space to #VibeUp, to leave the past in the past so we are not doomed to repeat it. Paul Bloom makes a terrific case for the misunderstood nature of empathy, which social media has exaggerated considerably. When I attempt to take on your pain, or your past, I am magnifying those events that are not part of my history and I am now making them my present.

I can instead respect your pain, and offer you my peace, that you may move into a space that is here and now, not then and there.

Whenever we here in Hawaii have a tsunami alert, or hurricane warning, I ask my friends and family to stay away from the drama queens that are CNN and Fox News, and instead, to #ThinkCalmThoughts. Thoughts have energy. We are now living in an energetic universe. When I am facing challenges, I ask not for your pity or your empathy or your fear, I ask for your radiance of love and calm that it may waft its way to me and impact my world. I am grateful beyond words for this form of generosity.

Here are 5 things you can do today instead of mourning 9/11:

Be grateful for some thing(s). It can boost your energy in magical ways.
Connect with nature. Even in cities, you have the sky.
Sit in silence. This is the gift that keeps on giving, to you and to others.
Laugh. For any reason or none at all. It’s a natural tonic.
Heart this post. We can influence how others experience 9/11.

Thank you for reading this post and Aloha from Maui.

Love, Rox
In the Transition

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