Spicy Snacks: On Daughters

Spicy Snacks are little bits and bites for people that are into education, parenting, or technology. Enjoy!

Spicy Thoughts:

I have two daughters and they are the best in the world. They are courageous, kind, and don’t take crap from anyone (least of all me). I worry about them and all of our daughters.

I fret about them because the tech world is not safe. Because it’s hard to be a cop. Because the notion of making a career as an actor in Hollywood sounds terrifying. Because these recent stories in the media are really just the tip of the iceberg, possibly garnering more attention because it’s women of privilege that are the victims this time (women in marginalized communities aren’t getting the op-eds and hot takes).

I wonder if it’s high time that we start being honest with our daughters. Clearly, “you can do anything a boy does” is a great ideal to strive for, but, on its own, is dangerously disingenuous.

Our daughters, mothers, and sisters are doing enough. They don’t need to do any more than they already do. The ball’s in our court of us men. We’re the ones that can play the role of an expert even when we don’t know what we’re talking about. We’re the ones that win Dad of the Year because we have once changed a diaper or write a blog about parenting. I’ve shared this week’s Spicy Snacks to remind us of the world our daughters live in.

Spicy Listen:

The following episode of the Weird Work Podcast was interesting to me not only because I’d never heard of ASMR or the exploding trend of ASMR videos, but also (and mostly) because of the lengths Heather Feather says she strategically goes to in order to stay safe as a woman on YouTube.

Spicy Read:

Have you seen Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk on “Power Posing”? It’s very likely that you have since it’s the second most viewed of all time. Did you know that, due in no small part to the talk’s popularity, Cuddy found herself embroiled in a hurricane of scrutiny in which the problematic aspects of her research methods became conflated with who she is as a human being? Again, one can’t help but wonder if the bar for “rightness” that Cuddy struggled to leap over is the same one her male counterparts have to reach. It’s difficult to read this compelling long-form on her unwanted journey from social science celebrity to social media target without wondering where the safe spaces might be for our daughters to make mistakes as leaders.

Spicy Video:

These sisters are so cool.

Spicy Tech:

Are you part of an organization that uses Google Drive? It’s getting out of hand, isn’t it? The chaos of file organization, I mean. These days, when I open Drive in my browser, I fell like this:

I fall down a pit of distraction and I can’t get out. I try to organize stuff to no avail. We forget that mass cloud storage and collaboration is not the same as personal computing as we’ve known it. The latter was a bedroom we could look after ourselves: organize or leave messy; put something somewhere, know where it is. The former is a communal hostel for toddlers who are moving things around like a squirrel plants nuts. This isn’t anyone’s fault; it’s the nature of sharing that many gigabytes with this many people.

That’s why I’ve started using my browser bookmarks/favorites toolbar as a way to categorize and organize. It gives me direct access to all my most frequently traversed Drive files and folders without the vortex of attention deficit. Here’s how to set your toolbar to view:

Then, spend a bit of time going to all of your important Drive files and bookmark/favorite them. Organize them and no one else can move or change the name of that file. Take control of your Drive.


Originally published at royan lee.

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