Or, how to discover your inner resilience.

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image by emeraldschell

I don’t think I know a single person who has not been rejected at some point in their life. Rejection sucks, everyone knows it. It stings and makes you question everything about everything. It’s pretty darn near impossible not to take it personally, at first anyway.

I’ve faced a respectable amount of rejection in my life, and I won’t lie, I’ve sent a fair share of rejection in the opposite direction as well.

Below is a brief overview of some of my favorite rejection moments:

  • I have been laid off three times, once with only a few days of severance.
  • I was “let go” over the phone before an all-day client meeting. …

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Kunu brings the wisdom.

There’s a hilarious scene in the movie Forgetting Sarah Marshall where the main character, Peter, played by Jason Segel, decides to take a surfing lesson. Paul Rudd is genius as Kunu, the washed up, spaced out, albeit extremely wise surf instructor.

The scene begins with Kunu reassuring Peter that “Kunu will be your instincts.”

Peter does his best to fully trust Kunu, as ridiculous of an idea as that might appear to be. Kunu’s philosophy on surfing is that one should not do or try anything. It is from this place that he launches into this memorable quote:

The less you do, the more you do. …

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M82 Galaxy, remixed from the Hubble Legacy Archive from Flickr user Adam Evans (original photo here)

It’s been a while, almost two years now, since I had a semi-regular writing practice. Scratch that. A semi-regular sharing practice. I’ve been writing aplenty, but keeping my ideas hidden in the confines of my journal (I heart Day One), in emails with friends, and in tiny digital walled gardens, also known as Facebook groups.

I have your typical excuses: no one wants to read the crap inside my head, I don’t have time, where do I even post this thing, and isn’t there enough content in the world already?

Yes, maybe, no, I don’t know. No matter which way I land, there’s a voice inside me that says, “You have to write and share.” Try as I might to quiet this voice, or tamp it down with the white noise of distraction, it simply will not stop communicating with me. …


roz duffy

design strategist + researcher, coach, fun. she/her.

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