Such sour grapes. You have twice as many people to choose from for sexual relationships. That is a huge advantage. You lament on being invisible but what a blessing not to be judged first on your sexual nature. OK, so you don’t get to play identity politics, big deal. If everyone would push for individual freedom and general tolerance, we wouldn’t have to worry about which group is more disadvantaged. At least as a monogamist you can marry anyone you like. As a polyamoryst, I am also invisible, but prohibited from from marrying more than one of the four people I love.