The wolf in sheep’s clothing.
It is somewhat frustrating and liberating to finally see a person for who they really are.You constantly make excuses for why they behaved or behave in a certain way until you start believing that maybe your doubts were completely unfounded.
Liberating because it frees you in all ways- emotionally,mentally,physically and psychologically. The mask is finally off. You’ve figured out how they lie,so much so they aren’t even aware they are lying to themselves as well.
I read an interesting article the other day on why narcissists say I love you and some of the reasons were;
When I say “I love you” I mean that I love how hard you work to make me feel like you are everything, that I am the focus of your life, that you want me to be happy, and that I’ll never be expected to do the same.
I love the power I have to take advantage of your kindness and intentions to be nice, and the pleasure I derive when I make myself feel huge in comparison to you, taking every opportunity to make you feel small and insignificant.
*more of them here http://www.google.com/url?q=http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/03/what-it-means-when-a-narcissist-says-i-love-you/&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwj_4r6_xeXRAhUMB8AKHcWWCjwQFggLMAA&usg=AFQjCNGNF6do6478TXqAEjsk-FlRlZWrhg
I prefer to not get into the science and research as to why they behave the way they do.Its draining to be on the receiving end of such actions whether it be from a significant other, a family member or friend.
Recognizing the signs early on is vital for everyone involved.Accept and realize that you deserve a healthy give and take relationship,not one where you’re doing all the sacrificing and compromising.
In the narcissist’s world being accepted or cared for (not to mention loved) is a foreign language. It is meaningless or even repellent. One might recite the most delicate haiku in Japanese and it would still remain utterly meaningless to a non-speaker of Japanese. This does not diminish the value of the haiku or of the Japanese language, needless to say. But it means nothing to the non-speaker.
Narcissists damage and hurt but they do so offhandedly and naturally, as an afterthought.They are aware of what they are doing to others - but they do not care..Sam Vaknin said it well.