I’m not sure what exactly you’re trying to convey in this article, apart from self pity and self-promotion. Also it is not OK to not have your stuff together — but that “stuff” needs some definition.
Having it together as a adult means not having to rely on others to support you. Just you. We’re talking basic food, shelter, clothing here, with something put away for short term future and working to put something away for the longer term. Everything else is optional. No one needs a spouse, kids, house, fancy car, wealth. This can come later, doesn’t matter if they don’t. Babies are optional, but learning to work in a corporation, yes, whether you like it or not, is essential. Usually that’s where the money comes from.
But you do need to be able to provide for yourself and wok towards that goal. I had/have hobbies too, a passion for something else that I don’t do as a job but remains a hobby activity. A sport, a musical activity. In fact most of us do. Pursuing a dream for most of us is not an act of heroism, rather in the real world this is wishful thinking. When faced with the prospect of not being able to support ourselves most of us shifted focus since that was a correct move at the time. But we’ve put that aside to earn a living as accountants, lawyers, janitors, wait staff in restaurants, cooks but not celebrity chefs. Not the glamorous stuff. We’ve responsibly maintained a backup plan which took center stage once the primary plan had to be set aside due to — well life.
Some mature individuals understand this, which is why in addition to pursuing their art, they take up work at Starbucks or Costco.
I teach my kids too — to get their act together and be able to take care of themselves. This is required — as a adult i.e. “don’t be hero, get a job, don’t expect others to support you and tell your friends too.”
Good luck.
