Russel Fernandes
Aug 23, 2017 · 1 min read

There is certainly much benefit if both marriage and divorce are regulated by the State to some extent with equal emphasis placed on both processes and outcomes.

Divorce has just got to be complicated and take time, often due to children being involved. Unfortunately the State defaults to standard roles for the parents and one ends up raising kids with the other sends cash to continue to support the situation with little incentive to excel in the role. Maybe a waiting period in most cases except for the worst case where physical harm is a potential issue. During that waiting period both parties get to physically separate and experience and reflect on dual costs for most day to day items with no sharing benefits/efficiencies, dropping off/picking up kids constantly from McDonalds on weekends, former joint friends who are now forced to take sides — say for a period of six months.

Let’s have the same for marriage. Six months forced co-habitation in a fairly small space, to experience the thrill of bathroom and kitchen conflict, a serious disconnect in political views, TV control, different spending habits, music variance, increased exposure to friends and family — even lingering past/backup lovers, with a string of state mandated background checks confirming identity, education, medical records, financial situation, employment history and market indexed earning potential. Now this might just work.

Given the marriage/divorce success data, I think the above is closer to the true solution and a huge improvement on the Vegas wedding idea.

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