When you approve of yourself you will also attract people who approve of you. When you have a low opinion of yourself you will inevitably attract people who agree with that low opinion.
It’s uncool to have no filters to what you say on occasion. But I’m not running for office. That shipped sailed a long time ago.
So, whether it’s a tattoo, a new hairstyle, or simply a new hobby, look for ways to authentically stretch and expand yourself. You are so much more than you know. And the only way to know is to trust and surrender.