I Am Ready to Let it Go
I love Reddit drama as much as the next person, not so much when I am at the center of said drama, but I think it is time for all of us to move on.
I loved participating in r/exmormon for 4 years. There were great highs and great lows. Admittedly, I would have loved to have gone out on my terms, but some things are not meant to be.
The r/exmormon moderators finally gave the actual reasons for banning me from their forum.
1. A Facebook post I made with an unredacted screen shot I first saw redacted on Reddit
2. A comment I made on r/mormon that was deleted within minutes.
3. A private message I sent on Reddit in an attempt to identify the person in the redacted screen shot
As laid out in my previous posts on the matter, I stated that I would accept a ban if it was for one, or any combination, of the above reasons.
The unfortunate side effect of this ban is that I have had to make the tough decision to move on from r/exmormon and find other forums to participate in.
The issue is #3.
I sent Daniela a private message telling her that I was trying to verify the screen shot for a blogger/journalist and that the person’s name would not be shared. She refused, which she had every right to do.
When, a few hours later, I discovered the identity of the Facebook user through means outside of Reddit, I was shocked and appalled by the individual’s entire Facebook wall…a wall that he has wisely scrubbed in recent days. The post I ultimately shared was the final straw for me and I made the decision to post the unredacted screen shot. This is something I never would have done had it been given to me by Daniela, not because I would not have wanted to, but because I consider my sources sacred.
I frequently reach out to Redditors privately in a attempt to break stories. I have done this approximately 15 times in the last year with varying degrees of success and a few stories have been broken. I never get credit in these stories because I never wanted it and did not ask for it.
The most recent example is the story about the BYU-I adjunct professor who was fired over her Facebook comments in support of LGBT rights. I reached out to her student who posted the story on Reddit and asked for her information. It was given to me. I contacted her and asked her if she was willing to talk to my contact at KUTV. She was and they broke the story.
The student could have just as easily said no and turned me in to the r/exmormon moderators and I would have been banned.
I was not aware of this rule and I have no problem with them having the rule if that is what they see as best for the community. Having said that, I am not willing to stop trying to break stories that I see on Reddit.
I am not asking for the ban to be lifted. I don’t want it reduced. I don’t want special rules for me.
I have known this might happen for the last couple of days and I think I have come to terms with it.
I greatly appreciate all of the people who have defended me both publically and privately. I am especially grateful for the people who think my Facebook post was in poor taste by recognized that I had done nothing wrong on reddit, at least nothing that deserved a six month ban.
Having said all of that, I want to ask everyone to let this go. Let’s move on. I don’t want this to continue to be a distraction for the exmormon community on Reddit. I am not going anywhere, I just won’t be at r/exmormon.