Endless Discrimination on Grindr
Grindr is a gay dating/hookup app, but just because it because it’s gay doesn’t mean it’s free of discrimination. People often perceive all LGBT people as being non-discriminatory simply because they are a minority. This is not the case. If you are a gay man who happens to have a Grindr account, there is a 99% chance you have seen guys who flaunt the typical “no fats,” “no femmes,” “no Asians,” etc. on their profile.
Buckle your seat belts, because I am about to show you examples (in the form of screenshots)* of just about every type of discrimination you can think of, all directly from, yes… you guessed it: Grindr.
If you do not already know what “femme” means, it means “feminine acting.” Many guys on Grindr blatantly state “no femmes,” but this guy takes an interesting approach by implying that he wants to find “straight acting” (AKA masculine) guys. In addition, he indirectly implies that feminine acting guys are not normal or weird.
DISCRIMINATION BASED ON “ATTRACTIVENESS”
This guy doesn’t seem to want anything to do with anyone he thinks is ugly. This is a typical thing you see on Grindr: guys discriminating based on looks. We all have our own definition of what makes a person attractive, so anybody can be the victim of discrimination based on someone’s idea of attractiveness. Anyone who isn’t good looking enough to him would not be capable of providing him with a “fun time,” whatever that may be.
In my opinion, Asians face the most discrimination on Grindr. As if the classic “no Asians” bit wasn’t enough, this man went as far as making a Great Wall of China reference. It is sad when an app has so much discrimination against a minority that it becomes a joke to some people.
ANTI-AFRICAN AMERICAN DISCRIMINATION
All black people are “the same” according to this Grindr guy. Obviously he is speaking of African-Americans in a negative tone. The classic “no blacks” trend on Grindr is a repudiation of Martin Luther King’s and other civil rights leader’s progress towards ending racism.
DISCRIMINATION BASED ON WEIGHT AND AGE
Older and/or heavy people may get the feeling that they don’t stand a chance on Grindr. This photo (sadly) encourages that feeling. Connections should be about if you are compatible with that person, not the number of years you have lived or the number on a scale. This guy even goes as far as to taunt the reader by using a typical school yard bully term: “you’ve seen a mirror.”
DISCRIMINATION BASED ON HAIRSTYLE
Just when you’ve thought you’ve seen it all… yes, Grindr guys are even well-known for discriminating based on HAIRSTYLE. This may seem silly, but I added this to the bunch in order to highlight how far these guys will go with discrimination. Sporting a Steve Harvey cut? Then don’t you DARE message this guy!
I do recognize that some people have certain preferences about how they want their ideal match to be, but there is a difference between “preferences” and being outrageously discriminatory. As times change, we must recognize that there are several types of people out there, and we should not stereotype, discriminate, or oppress them. Keeping an open-mind is vital when it comes to meeting people in 2017. Instead of blatantly stating “no fats,” “no femmes,” etc. on your profile, try leaving it blank. If a person of that minority messages you, try politely saying “I’m not interested, but have a good day.” By approaching the situation in this way, it seems more like a polite preference rather than outright, stated, disrespectful discrimination.
If you are femme, non-attractive, Asian, African-American, chunky, older, bald-headed, or anything else in between, do not let Grindr discrimination discourage you from getting out there and meeting people. There are plenty of accepting people who won’t discriminate against you.
*= I have covered up the faces and personal information such as names and locations of the people in these example photos/screenshots due to identity purposes.