My Bedtime Routine With My Daughters

Ryan Cote
Ryan Cote
Oct 8, 2018 · 3 min read

In a previous article, I spoke about creating my perfect morning routine and how it has positively impacted my life. In this blog post, I will talk about a new bedtime ritual I’ve established with my 3 girls and how we have benefited from it so far.

The Routine

The routine is simple on purpose, as children are generally not receptive to complicated tasks, especially ones that we’re trying to do daily so it becomes a habit. And, honestly, neither am I. Anything I try to make a habit, I try to fine-tune it as much as possible so it’s as simple as possible so I stick with it. This is a topic for another blog post.

So our new bedtime ritual starts at 8:30pm and it consists of 2 parts.

First, I read to them. Currently, we are reading books by the author Judy Blume, 10 minutes each night until the books are finished. I know this is parenting 101, but not something I was doing. And I like that we’re reading full books that we get to experience together as opposed to short books at random.

On a side note, have you every tried reading out loud for 10 minutes straight? My vocal cords need to get stronger!

Second, and most importantly, we each take turns talking about one win we had throughout the day. The win can be big or small, it doesn’t matter.


There are a number of benefits to this bedtime routine. First, it gets them to bed at a reasonable, consistent time each night. This benefits my marriage too as I actually get to spend time with my wife.

Second, by reading books to my girls every night, they get the chance to bond not just with me, but with each other through a shared, positive experience. I assume it also helps build their vocabulary and widen their imagination in the process.

Last, but not least, giving them the chance to share their win of the day is my way of training or strengthening their mind to seek out the wins and positivity of each day.

What I found while doing my morning routine, and practicing gratitude daily, is that my mind begins to automatically notice the bright side of every situation. This is an extremely important attitude to develop at an early age, and really any age for that matter.

Wrapping Up

So that’s it! And before I end this article, I wanted to mention that this overall routine process is not just for parents and children…it can be applied to any important relationship that you are seeking to strengthen.

Using business as an example, you could join a mastermind with like-mind people where you create a routine of meeting weekly or monthly, strengthening relationships and growing in the process. I drink my own kool-aid as I recently joined this group.

Or, with fitness, many people create the habit of going with the same person to the gym every time as a way to hold them accountable…and this is typically a person you enjoy being around and want to make the friendship stronger.

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Ryan Cote

Director of Digital Services & Partner at I love marketing, family, morning rituals, fitness & entrepreneurship. Father to 3 girls…wish me luck!

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