The New Era of Dating: Is Chivalry Dead?

The Internet has successfully warped the views on dating, relationships and courtships. Alas, chivalry is dead.

I can’t stress enough how much I don’t envy the younger generation of daters nowadays. If I was still a college girl in my early 20’s, I’d go crazy. The online dating craze has been taken by storm, and that’s an understatement. For those who actually want a relationship, I’d have to say good luck to anyone trying to find anything meaningful in this day and age. If you are perfectly happy being single, then congrats! Keep doing your thing.

Thank you Tinder, for you’ve successfully diminished what it means to court a person and find a relationship with substance. Thank you to all the online dating sites, for you’ve provided individuals with oh-so-many options that they move on to the next person at the drop of a hat, simply because they get bored after two minutes. So many options, such little time. Whatever shall we do?

Effort is no longer much of a requirement for daters nowadays. It’s a sad fact, but true. Living in the era of technology, people have become too busy to even try and maintain anything meaningful. Romance has gone out the window. It has been replaced by laziness and computer screens. With just the click of a mouse, we can easily enter into the realm of dating profiles and get the quick fix we occasionally desire. Digital approval has somehow become more important than anything else. Who can get the most likes? Who will swipe right based on my pictures? How many online messages have I received from potential conquests? It’s like a drug. You get your quick fix which provides a high and a false sense of happiness.

Life is not like the movies, especially romantic comedies. Come to think of it, it never really was. It’s a lot more complicated and realistic than that. These days, it’s not likely that a guy will go out of his way too much to woo and court a young lady. That’s old school. Ain’t nobody got time for that, right? People aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for lust. A one night stand. And if it doesn’t lead to anything? Meh, it’s all good. On to the next conquest. Since being single and not tied down is more appealing than ever nowadays, the motivation to have a relationship with substance is no longer a priority, if you’re willing to travel down that path. Hence why the younger generation is doomed if the select few are actually looking for something meaningful and long-term. As mentioned before, I don’t have any envy. I don’t feel like I’m missing out. I feel lucky that I somehow skipped this era of “courtship”.

What are your thoughts on relationships and dating these days?