I think women do a pretty good job of things (and men as well) given what we’re talking about. Men and women together should be the worst possible situation for women… they are at distinct disadvantage as your comments highlight… however we also know that gay relationships are statistically MORE violent, and lesbian relationships are worse still. In other words, with parity we see MORE violence. This means men treat women responsibly on the whole.
This isn’t about “society”. This isn’t about “porn”. At least in any central way.
YouTube “duck rape” if you want to know what this is really about.
Men cannot be blamed for being larger and more powerful. Men cannot be blamed for the sexual impulse… so in many ways the “environment” (1B years of sexual and physical evolution) is cast. Women cannot escape the need to read cues (and its certainly evolved into women). This is the ocean in which they swim.
Finally, consent is the most ridiculous notion ever inserted into sexual politics. It is non-sensical on its surface. You’re either being raped, or you are choosing to “do it”, whatever that is. It is a shared activity… like river rafting with friends. You show up, you climb in the boat, and you’re on your way. Who the hell are you supposed to give consent TO???? And for what? For your decision to go river rafting? Go tell your friends you “consent” to go rafting with them and watch their expression go full confused. Then what happens when the boat goes left around the rocks, but you wanted to go to the right? “I never gave consent to go to the right of those rocks!” ??? And you want to know what happens when you “Change your mind” about going river rafting half way in? To “remove consent”? Get the fuck out of the boat. And be ready to face the consequences. The water is cold, and it’s a long way back to the car… and you friends may be pretty pissed you bailed out on them, especially if you were needed on the team. You bail on them… and you are fucking them over. And it’s ON YOU.
To believe that women need to give “consent” to sex places them in either a position of privilege, or that they are understood to be incapable of acting as a full person — to be responsible for what they do in the world… of equal station to men… tossing any notion of “equality” out the window.
So choose ladies… either you are capable equals, or you are not and special structures need to be set up for you.