Ryder Spearmann
Jul 30, 2017 · 4 min read

Short answer: because there is so little in it for them.

I’d have to say there are often large differences between what we say we want, and what we actually want… or think is practical.

Men say they want to have kids… because they are supposed to say that. To the extent they want them, they don’t really want them the way women do. What men actually want is sex. Kids just seem to show up somehow.

For men, it’s not practical. They may want kids, but they know that the likely scenario is that the woman they had them with will leave, take the kids with them, and then the men will have to pay for her adventure, and hopefully, if she doesn’t invent false accusations, may visit them sometimes.

The $ math you did is irrelevant. It’s going to cost them bank to be with you. Women are expensive. Paying for women’s children is expensive… and getting to pay when you no longer have either is about the worst ROI imaginable.

Women, for some reason, think that despite this, they are still a “catch” or a good thing for men… increasingly, this is not at all true. We live in an age where even men that prove through DNA testing that they are not the father of their cheating bride’s children, they can be ordered by the courts to pay child support.

Women don’t seem to get that they are easily and cheaply replaced. Porn is free… and those girls are in way better shape than you are, and are happy do do what you won’t. Oh, and they *never* complain. And sex robots are already here… crude today… but better every day.

And yet women think they are so amazingly worth it, that they feel free to assemble long lists of “deal breaker” traits and “musts” for their man.

I date, but just for sex. I won’t marry… and I tell them so when the subject comes up… but for the older ones, they are so desperate that they think their best bet is to “change me”, and get me to want to become their legal slave. Not going to happen. But I enjoy letting them try.

When women finally come to realize that they don’t actually have much to offer to counter their deteriorating looks and a massive financial and legal minefield they may represent… maybe this can turn around… but I doubt it.

Men are independent by nature. They really don’t need you.

What do you *really* have to offer them? Financial stability? No. Security? No. Can you maintain a home? No. Women frequently can no longer even cook, I’ve found… and more and more, men can. Well. Can you figure out how to solve the problems men confront? Generally, no. Men rely on other men for that.

So what do you bring to the table?

And what you may think of as “improving” a man’s life, he might see as a self serving intrusion. (Depending on the thing).

Men provide their own security, their own financial stability, they can maintain what they own, they can feed themselves, and they can solve their own problems. (Are there losers? Sure. Of both sexes. Not what were’re talking about)

But they also realize that they live in a society that is rather hostile to them by default… especially when standing next to a woman, who by default is protected (wrongfully seen as fragile and innocent).

I escaped my marriage, and through my efforts and some luck, I navigated the financial and child support minefield successfully, paying only $60 to file the divorce papers.

I’m the exception.

The sad thing is… there ARE exceptional women out there, but we can’t tell the good ones from the bad quite honestly. Our judgement is overridden by large chests and flat stomachs.

From the great song writer Randy Newman:

Once a great man’s heart was captured, by a lovely chest. Told himself it was her mind he loved, but he was blind like all the rest. 20 hard years went by, till another chest would catch his eye. He just hung his head and cried and said “I’m sorry dear, you’re too late I’ve already ruined my life.”

I suspect that women today don’t understand what they have done to society… the full ramifications of their attack on gender roles, and the functionality of historical patterns.

Men don’t want to pay for your baby adventures anymore… which is clearly at the heart of your article, even if unrealized or unspoken.

What I predict will happen, is that women will continue to become more and more married to the state, and they will continue to expand ways to get men’s money through the tax system to fund their baby adventures.

They will think this is a good idea.

They will be wrong.

Men will simply stop paying taxes… they will literally let society crumble.

It’s already happening.

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