Yeah, but you know where they are, and they’re not going to go into a drunken rage and beat you… to there’s that plus :)
But with the extremes… I think to focus on “the thing” is really missing the point. The thing is alcohol. The thing is video games. The thing is x,y, z.
The actual thing is… people that fail at life.
One need not analyze it to death. Just look at them failing, and go: “Wow, they are totally failing.” then walk away.