Ryder Spearmann
Sep 4, 2018 · 2 min read

Yeah, I pretty much live by these rules… including living in the tiny house I designed and built. My closest political “tribe” are the libertarians… but I really don’t know any and I am not a part of any libertarian group. I tried to talk to some once, and found they were guilty of their own stupidity and tribalism… so I’m clearly NOT them, but closer to them (and classic liberalism) than the “Republicrats”.

One thing you touched on but I think could have emphasized more is to NOT GO OUT ON A LIMB… ie: don’t make any “hail-Mary” predictions or take on extreme positions. Modest observations when considered properly, can be very profound.

I often try to draw the most striking conclusion from a humble observation… for example: Marriage is not about love.

Shocking.

But we know that marriage includes arranged marriages (even more popular as we go back in time, *closer toward the beginning of marriage*)… therefore any notions of romantic love reflects trends in the *mate selection process* and not the marriage itself. We also know that people in arranged marriages are just as happy as those who choose their own mate (if not happier). We also know that people remain married even when they are no longer in love for any number of reasons (if they ever were). We also know about gold diggers. We also can track the rise of “romantic marriage” in western history (getting a huge boost about the time of the Troubadours).

So with humble observations, the popular notion that “marriage is about love” is skewered repeatedly. It’s a bad idea.

Suddenly you are saying something intelligent that can be easily illustrated and defended. It doesn’t go out on a limb. This brings sanity back to human thought.

    Ryder Spearmann

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