Hi Kel, appreciate that you shared this.
I’m sorry to focus on the door part, but it really got me thinking. Asking myself if I’m trying to be a hero, or what is my motivation for holding doors. I know I’ve seen that annoyed looks before.
I realized I also have seen the same awkward or annoyed look by all the guys I’ve held the door for. It’s purely based on distancing and timing if I hold the door or not. Sex is not a factor. I just don’t want to let the door close right before someone reaches it. Feels rude.
You are correct that there are lots of things I can’t relate to. The shushes would really piss me off. Some people are just jerks, and while they may shush you, they maybe apply the same rudeness to a man in the form of interruption.
Anyway, I know you aren’t looking for answers, or even male response, but I’ll definitely be more aware, observant, and hopefully less annoying/offensive around people at the office.