#THE INTERESTED CHALLENGE !

Saba Arif
Saba Arif
Jul 28, 2017 · 4 min read
If you want to be interesting, be interested.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie

After reading this book how to make Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie from chapter 1: I get to know the secret of success or life to make more friends in a short time. “Do this you will be welcomed anywhere” said by Dale Carnegie in his this excellent book.

Give respect to others.

Main theme of the book I guess is give respect to others for being interested. In this world people want from you love and affection. You should give them respect in order to gain respect.

Moreover he discussed different examples of life, I want to share one from them.

He once took a course in short-story writing at New York University, and during that course the editor of a leading magazine talked to their class. He said he could pick up any one of the dozens of stories that drifted across his desk every day and after reading a few paragraphs. He could feel whether or not the author liked people.

“If the author doesn’t like people,” he said, “people won’t like his or her stories.”

So if we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people -things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness. Make feels to others that they are special for you.

Make good conversations with others.

I apply this statement in interested challenge and when I reach to one of my Batch Fellow from University whom which I did not talk much, I start conversation with a question that “how was the result of you” and then we talk almost two hour. I felt that I give her respect and she is giving double.During conversation she told me about all her family members, and first time in my life I told her about mine family within a minute.

I’m the person who don’t like to discuss own family with others but after the conversation I realize that if we show interest, really this make difference. At the end she said

It makes me smile for a long time. I was glad to see this text.So showing a “genuine” interest in others not only wins friends for you, but may develop loyalty and affection.

Take a moment and think about what genuine interest means?

That’s real interest in the person .There is a set of things you are really interested in that is very tied into your feelings. This is not something you can change in a few minutes, or even over a period of months or years. You just can’t have genuine interest when you’re not interested.

Once you find yourself with what is happening, you can change your life by using the some information provided:

Show your interest by following actions

#Ask: Ask about what’s going on in his life?

#Listen: If you listen to someone speaking, they know it. They feel it. Listening happens not only with your ears, but with your whole body.

#Share: Of course you need to listen, but it’s also important to start sharing. A trusting relationship can grow because both sides are opening up.

#Act: For example if someone told you he loves gardening, you might want to bring him a plant for next time.

#Smile: Smile at the person you find interesting. There’s nothing like the power of a smile to make someone’s day.

#Speak Well: Few genuine words can brighten a day.

#Ask for advice: If you really want to make someone feel valued, share an issue you are dealing with and ask for advice on the matter.

Conclusion is that trying to just “do” these kinds of things won’t work.“Being” this kind of person is what will make a difference.

I will continue to implement this rule for rest of my life. I learn from this activity that “Respect” give it to get it”.

Saba Arif

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Saba Arif

Computer Science Engineer \ Thinker \ Hard worker \ Designer\ passionate to do Anything

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