Before I started writing consistently about relationships, I had a sense of entitlement about them. I didn’t think so much about what I could give someone, but rather what they could give me. However, after a year of observing other people to get material, I realized how flawed the urban dating scene was. People were constantly trying to trade up other people, just like they would a job, a car, or a house. I decided to focus on what I had, uncover the beauty in human imperfection, and be patient. One doesn’t find soul mates after all. Soul mates are created.