Perspectives Change

All of the things that were black and white in my mind became a little less so. The things that made life consistent and predictable were all of the thoughts in my head that explained everything to me. What is right? What is wrong? How do I treat people? What do I accept? So many questions that I was lucky enough to have all the answers to in my head. Anyone that didn’t agree was probably wrong and too stubborn to see it. Living together outside marriage;wrong. Mixed marriages of any kind, cultural, religious, color, sexuality;wrong. Credit, loans, borrowing;wrong. Anything I learned as wrong must always be. Then things started to change in me. Divorce, I did not believe in it, then it happened to me. Whether I wanted it or not had no bearing since she wanted it and she got it. No fault they called it, so I guess no one is to blame. My perspective changed when circumstance made them change. It happened more often as I aged. I pretty much just believe in letting people live as they wish at this point, but when they try to tell me I have to believe in their black and white views I cringe and run away. Why is it that people fight for a freedom to their opinion means denying me mine. If I feel something is wrong and you feel it is right can we not just disagree instead of making it about hate. If I think, people will be offended at some point. Sometime in life your perspectives and opinions should make you walk away rather than fight. The people you argue with about your issue will most likely dig in just because they don’t want to let you win, not because of right or wrong. So try this; We disagree and that’s OK, talk to you later. Either they will go their way and remain in their belief or they will eventually find their perspective changes their thought. Either way what you do today to offend them will have little affect on their choice. Let it go.