Misery Is Easy
This is a touchy subject but it is time to tackle this hard reality:
It is the easiest thing in the world to be miserable.
Misery lets us check out physically and emotionally of our life.
Misery requires that we don’t have faith in anything (most especially ourselves).
Misery encourages us to simply accept life the way it is.
Misery is easy.
And here is why:
Misery is not a thing that happens to you, it’s a state of being.
The State of Being Miserable
What does this mean? Let’s unpack the state of being in misery.
Like any other state of emotion (happiness/sadness, love/hate), misery comes when we make the choice to be bitter, unhappy, and stagnant. It is the culmination of dreams deferred, forgotten, ignored or destroyed. Usually, our own.
Misery is the realization that the life you are living is not the one you would have chosen for yourself. It is usually accompanied by those less-than-wonderful allies: despair and disease.
Misery comes from investing in the identity others want for us instead of taking time to build and invest in our Unique self.
You are investing in someone else’s version of you if:
- You are afraid to speak your truth to people in your life.
- You know you are living someone else’s dream.
- You know you are living in someone else’s nightmare.
- Your vision of life would require the dismantling of your current circumstances.
- You are not sure what your Self actually wants.
Notice that this is about you. The reasons why we stay in a state of misery has nothing to do with other people (unless you are a child who is to young to have any control over your life). It has everything to do with us and what we are afraid of.
Fear of being alone.
Fear of losing love.
Fear of missing out.
Fear of being alone.
Moving Away From Misery
Alright, how do we change our state of being?
First, you have to tell the truth to yourself. Who are you? What is your purpose? What are your circumstances? Whose life are you living? What role are you playing? What needs to change? What can you do to change it?
Second, you have to find a moment every day and in any way possible to tell that truth out loud. The sound of our voices brings power to our words. Even if you have to say it in a whisper, say it out loud. Write it where you can see it. Sing it in a song. Your truth must come out of you and into the world.
Third, you have to make a choice. In whatever circumstance life finds us in, we have to decide to be miserable or happy. Misery breeds misery. Happiness breeds happiness.
This Is Not An Easy Task
Misery can become the familiar pair of jeans that we love to put on to keep us comfortable and makes us feel safe.
It it time to get a new pair of jeans.