On Understanding Self


As we get older we spend more and more time trying to understand who we fundamentally and principally are. Retrospection now becomes a part of what we do and we spend time through introspection, reflection, and conversations with trusted partners and friends about who we are and what we’re meant to do with ourselves in our limited time on earth.

Albeit, many of us do not do this enough for our own good (and for others). I believe that the better we know ourselves the more we have to positively offer others and the world. And, we get a nice healthy kickback too.


But the point is that we don’t do enough of it and many of us need a swift kick in the pants to allocate some time to just sitting, resting, and escaping the incredibly busy world that will ever be before us.

Of course, I’m not advocating anything close to wasting time idly thinking about random stuff; that we do naturally. Explicitly investing is unnatural, even for those that have been able to build some historical precedents.

I went through an exercise today with a friend who’s learning to understand horoscopes, astrology, and a bunch of other things that I am not very familiar with. I gave her my birth date, some biographical info, and she wrote out a small chart for me and walked me through it.

Fascinating stuff.

She’s my friend and she’s spending time learning how to not only interpret but coach others through this process. She doesn’t want to become a psychic or anything like that but she does want to help others know themselves better.

And I’m for that because I’m for her and because she’s a friend. I’m not entirely sure where I sit in terms of astrology at large but I’ve been more and more open to understanding how others understand themselves and their surrounding world.

Part of my (positive) growth as a functional adult is being more open to other people’s perspectives, world views, and respecting those vantages as much as I do my own. That’s hard when you’re young because dogmatism is easier to reach than empathy.

But if we are to understand ourselves better then it is imperative that we understand ourselves as well. If the only person we see is ourselves in a single-framed mirror then our view is limited and, quite simply, poor.

Originally published at John Saddington.