As the victim, you don’t owe Ali anything, but people reading your response to his apology don’t…

Never asked for their sympathy. I ask for their compassion. Which are two different things. Telling me I don’t have a right to be upset, that what he did wasn’t transphobic or sexual harassment, or telling me I am just a crybaby is not just being unsympathetic. It is showing a lack of empathy and compassion. And I’m sorry. If people don’t know how to be empathetic or compassionate then we have a different problem on our hands.